E128 - Lessons from Christian De La Huerta: A Practical Path to Conscious Love

What if the biggest obstacle to love, success, or fulfillment isn’t the market, your manager, or your past—but the patterns you haven’t named yet? Today we unpack our conversation with transformational coach and TEDx speaker Christian De la Huerta and trace three clear pathways to change: sharpen self-awareness, relate to emotions as energy, and stop outsourcing power to anyone or anything outside you.

We start with the deceptively simple premise that you can’t change what you can’t see. By mapping recurring conflicts and triggers across relationships and work, you turn vague frustration into useful data. Christian’s approach in Conscious Love gives us practical tools to zoom out, notice loops that follow us from team meetings to dinner tables, and replace knee-jerk reactions with choices aligned to our values. From journaling prompts to quick pre-meeting check-ins, we show how small habits create enough space to pick a better next move.

Then we reframe emotions from weakness to signal. Suppressed sadness can flatten into depression, and bottled anger often ferments into rage. We walk through a simple sequence—feel fully, process safely, express responsibly—so feelings fuel growth instead of sabotaging it. Think grounding breaths, specific language that names needs without blame, and boundaries that protect connection rather than punish it. The result is emotional clarity you can use in high-stakes conversations at work and in delicate moments at home.

Finally, we reclaim personal power. Blame can feel comforting, but it keeps you stuck. By owning our responses—no matter what happens—we stay in the driver’s seat of our lives. That shift dissolves the false divide between personal and professional growth: the same skills that heal a tense partnership can stabilize a pressured project. We close with resources to go deeper, including Christian’s book, Conscious Love, and soulfulpower.com, plus a simple reflection you can try today to spot your most persistent pattern.

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Chapters

• 3:50 Framing the Recap
• 4:17 Christian’s Mission and Book
• 4:41 Why We Repeat Patterns
• 4:58 Takeaway 1: Self-Awareness First
• 5:30 Takeaway 2: Emotions Are Energy
• 5:55 Takeaway 3: Own Your Power
• 6:20 Blending Work and Life Growth
• 6:27 Resources and Next Steps
• 6:35 Listener Call-In and Close

Transcript

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What if the biggest thing keeping you from love, success, or fulfillment isn't out there but inside of you? In today's recap of my conversation with transformational coach and TEDx speaker Christian De la Huerta, we unpacked the power of self-awareness, emotional mastery, and taking back your personal power. And trust me, this is one you'll want to sit with for a bit. Christian spent over 30 years helping young people remove their internal barriers to love and connection. In his latest book, Conscious Love, it builds on that mission too, guiding people to approach relationships with others and themselves from a place of awareness and choice instead of fear and old patterns. In our conversation, we went deep into why we attract the wrong situations, why emotions aren't good or bad, and how to stop giving away our power in business, relationships, and in life. And three major takeaways from my conversation. And the first one was self-awareness is step one. You can't change what you can't see. And Christian encourages us to zoom out and notice patterns. I talk a lot about this in my coaching myself, and I totally believe in it. And Christian also repeated that conflicts, and he wants you to zoom out and notice the patterns around repeated conflicts, the recurring triggers and such, so that we can actually address what's underneath those patterns. And the second takeaway from our conversation was that emotions are energy, not weakness. And figuring out or realizing that suppressing sadness turns into depression, while suppressing anger turns into rage. Learn to feel, process, and express emotions responsibly so they fuel growth instead of sabotaging it. And my third takeaway was that you need to stop outsourcing your power. Anytime we blame our boss, our partner, or the system for how we feel, we give our power our way. The shift here is owning our responses, no matter what happens, so that we stay in the driver's seats for our lives. And this is one of those conversations where the line between personal and professional growth completely disappears. If you want to connect with Christian, check out his book, Conscious Love, on Amazon or visit soulfulpower.com. And if this episode spoke to you, please take a second to DM me on Instagram with what your biggest takeaway was. I'd love to hear about what hit home for you. And until next time, guys, keep looking inward, keep taking action, and keep building your prime performance life. Peace, guys.