Unlocking Personal Growth: Joseph Pellicci on Empathy, Sleep, and Nutrition

What happens when life throws you a curveball, and you find yourself on a transformative journey? Join us as we sit down with Joseph Pellicci, an extraordinary coach who helps men and women uncover self-love, compassion, and empathy. Joseph opens up about the pivotal moment in 2018 that set him on a path of self-discovery and how mentorship has been crucial in fast-tracking his success. We delve into the holistic tools and practices he employs daily, from grounding and clean eating to the importance of sleep and hydration, illustrating how interconnected our body, mind, and environment truly are. 

Joseph shares profound insights on how childhood wounds shape our adult relationships and our ability to receive love. Uncover powerful questioning techniques that coaches use to help individuals bring their truths to light and address core fears of unworthiness and unlovability. We emphasize the role of empathy and compassion in coaching and how to recognize when to refer clients to other professionals. This episode also touches upon the concept of vulnerability in men, drawing inspiration from Lewis Howes' book, "The Mask of Masculinity," and explores non-invasive energy realignment techniques.

Lastly, we take you through the stages of consciousness and personal growth, exploring everything from burdened emotional wounds to achieving an interconnected state with all beings. Discover the transformative power of immersive events like "Man on Fire" and the mission to foster a healthy masculine world. Joseph discusses how personal growth can create ripple effects that benefit families and communities. We wrap up with essential advice on surviving the side hustle, emphasizing the importance of being present and taking mindful steps toward your goals. Tune in for an episode packed with insights and practical tips for personal transformation!

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:40

What's going on today? I got a good friend of mine, joe, joe, dude. We connected a while back and then we just recently reconnected and, dude, I love hanging out with you, love chatting with you. You got a lot of great insight, a lot of cool experiences. I'm excited to have you on, man. So how are you doing today? I'm doing great, awesome, nice man. So how are you doing today? I'm doing great, awesome, nice.

Speaker 2: 1:07

How are you feeling after last weekend? Yeah, last weekend was absolutely. It was an awesome weekend. So many surprises that I didn't even expect. So it was like I said it was like Christmas morning Unexpected surprises.

Speaker 1: 1:21

Love that, love that, love that, love that, love that, love that. Um so, before we get a little off track here, uh, would you mind sharing a little bit about who you are and who you help, kind of thing?

Speaker 2: 1:32

Yeah, my name is Joseph Polici. Uh, I help men and women learn how to love themselves, uh, to have compassion and empathy for themselves, and to find their power, passion and purpose in life.

Speaker 1: 1:46

Nice man, and so how did you get into this role?

Speaker 2: 1:53

Beginning. What really brought me into this work was at the time in my life, back in 2018, my wife had left me. 2018, my wife had left me, and that brought me to the awareness that there was really something. It wasn't her. I realized in that moment it wasn't her, because I could see the hamster wheel that I wasn't able to see any other time in my life. I just saw that it happened over and over in relationship, over and over, and I was just like man, there's something really wrong here and it's not her, it's me. There's something I need to work on myself, and I didn't want to have that result again. So I began to learn how to love myself. I found a mentor that really helped me to see things differently, and eventually I got into a company called man on Fire and I became a coach for them, which I still am and in the process, I started my own thing, which is called Elite Lifestyle Blueprint thing which is called elite lifestyle blueprint nice, uh, you said you came across a mentor.

Speaker 1: 3:09

I I talk about mentors all the time. I talk about coaches and teachers and how they have such a great impact on so many people's lives and how it really helps fast track success for a lot of individuals. Um, because you are not only buying their experience and skills, but you're buying that time that they have gone through. So I guess it's kind of still an experience, but you're fast-tracking, so you don't have to make those same errors and those same mistakes. And I'm curious to ask you where did you find your mentor? Because it can be hard to find a good coach and a good mentor.

Speaker 2: 3:43

Yeah, I found him online online and I was really surprised. I still work with him today. We still work together. I really feel that it's important to have good mentors to really help you up, level yourself, to hold yourself accountable and for myself, I really feel that it's important to be the change and to know that that's what there's always refinement there's that just doesn't end. Um, but yeah, I found him online. He's. He is an unbelievable uh soul in this world helping men.

Speaker 1: 4:15

Awesome and uh. So what? What other kinds of things do you, do you guys go over? Because you said that you found this new level of like awareness with yourself and you found this coach here who holds you accountable. What are some like some of the things that you work on like on day-to-day that is continuing to help you improve?

Speaker 2: 4:33

um, so I work, I I get a lot of. I get a lot of different ways of working on my things, because, with man on fire, I'm still with them. Uh, we hold each other accountable. So we have something called sticks, we have something called cords and within that our sticks, we are able to check in each day with each other seeing what we wanted to accomplish, and we hold each other accountable to that. So we call it holding each other to the fire. We're really serious about being able to see each other succeed. We're really serious about being able to see each other succeed, um, because it's it's it's important.

Speaker 2: 5:10

You know, when we think we can do these journeys on our own, we, it's like the, the lone wolf, uh, the story of the lone wolf and we really think that we, we're supposed to do this on our own, or that we have this idea that, um, if I don't do it on my own, I'm not worthy and and that's it, and that's a complete falsity. It's when you are able to have a soul ships instead of relationships where you are able to hold each other to that fire and call each other forward, not needing to, uh, do anything to keep that relationship, because it's not a relationship, it's a soul ship. So you're really standing for that man's soul and his higher purpose in this world and what he says he wants to accomplish. So when a man is not showing up or when he's falling off, we call each other forward, depending on what the situation is and how we address that at the time. But there's so many tools that we have from having enough sleep we monitor our sleep drinking enough water every day, doing at least one workout a day, something in nature that you're outside grounding, eating clean is really important because what we put in our body does affect us, it does affect our mind, it affects our environment. And the biggest thing that I learned was about the four dimensions the body, the mind, the environment. If anything within those four dimensions is affected, it doesn't matter what dimension it is. It will pull the other ones down eventually and you find so many people in their head today. So many people are in their head and they're really searching for how they can control situations.

Speaker 2: 7:04

And when you learn what we're learning, you learn that it goes back to this wounded child and how they learned how to receive love through the human needs of certainty, uncertainty, love, slash, connection, growth or contribution. You learn how they learn to receive love, because most parents don't really have that healthy relationship with themselves. And you'll see that a child can get attention from a parent usually the father most of the time, but it could be the mother sometimes. They can't get their attention. They want their healthy relationship.

Speaker 2: 7:46

But when they get that eye contact or that attention from that parent whether it's being a pleaser or it's being you know, you're angry at yourself so you make trouble and you scream. Or if you're being the yes man, whatever you have to do to get that attention from parents, that first time that you get it it becomes a habit. Oh wow, they finally paid attention to me and it's this unknown thing that you know you're even doing so. It winds up affecting all your relationships and you're really living your life through this five to eight-year-old child and you don't even realize it until it gets to this point in your life where you see things falling apart and it just doesn't. Something doesn't feel right.

Speaker 1: 8:33

That's, that's pretty wild, and how do you get so? I'm guessing this is what you do with your coaching specifically. Is what you do with your coaching specifically? You help them kind of identify these blind spots that they're unaware of and then help them with different practices on how to improve and and change some of those habits and, uh, practices of their job yeah, so it would be through questioning you know, questions are the most powerful thing you can do, because if you're, if you were to give somebody the answers, you're just taking that away from and then it's just a good idea for them.

Speaker 2: 9:04

Oh, that's a cool idea. That sounds really cool. You know, I never heard of that before. It's a cool idea. But that's your truth and when you can ask very powerful questions, you allow a man to come to his own truth or a woman to come to their own truth, because once they say it, they can't take it back. And the truth is that most people don't want to hear these things because the deeper truth is that once they know the truth, they have to take responsibility for that, and most people don't. They want to throw it back at somebody else and make it somebody else's fault why they can fail. Because ultimately, if they were to fail, knowing their own truth, that would be the biggest devastation they can deal with.

Speaker 1: 9:43

It's to know that they that they're not enough or that they're unlovable. Uh, so so, so. So that's so. You come in, you kind of help them through the process, so then they bring awareness to it. Um, so does that mean how? How do you know, though, that they're a right fit for you, though? Because you just said right there that some people, I guess, overplay the victim role, and it's just easier for them to place the blame somewhere else. So I guess, like, how do you know that you can help them specifically? Is it through additional questioning to like determine, so almost like qualify them?

Speaker 2: 10:18

uh, no, so it would. You know there is that. That's a great question you asked because there are some times that, as a coach, you have to honor when you know it's a no and you can. You can recommend people to somebody else that might be able to help them. There are so many great coaches out there but sometimes you need to honor that no because it just might not be that fit. But through the various of questions that I can ask somebody, I can see how willing they are to do the work, Because you really, you know, at the end of the day it's not about chasing somebody. I'm going to show that empathy and compassion I'm ultimately going to, you know they're going to feel heard and seen for the first time, and that can go a long way. When somebody feels heard and seen for the first time, I mean the two, the two core fears that all humans have is the fear of unworthiness and the fear of unlovable-ness.

Speaker 1: 11:16

Can you explain the difference between those two?

Speaker 2: 11:19

Yeah, so you're going through uh, for instance, I can give you an example is you have to know that you're worthy to be on this earth, and so we connect that with the human needs. And this is kind of it sounds complex, but it's not really complex. So what happens here is that when we get wounded as a child or we had our first rejection from a parent even if we were adopted that's a wound as well, because then you have abandonment issues and you feel that you weren't even good enough for your real parents. So it's not with everybody, but some people can have those feelings, deep-seated feelings, and so right there, they already have an unhealthy relationship with the human needs. Most people are living with uncertainty. They need to be certain. So when you'll reach most people, they'll see that they're certain that they're not lovable and that they're not worthy because of these wounds that they had when they were younger, usually between the ages of five and eight.

Speaker 2: 12:33

It happens and you'll see that what happens is, if you break down the questions you'll you'll ask uh, for instance, you'll ask somebody so what happened? You know what? What brought you here? And they'll say, uh, I'm having a really bad relationship with my wife. Okay and um, can you tell me about that? And they would say something like uh, I, I like it doesn't seem like she really wants to be with me. I'm doing everything I can, I don't know what else to do, and she's always being mean to me. She's always lashing out at me, no matter what I do. It could be an incident there are some where people lash out at each other but as you go through the questions, you can start to break it down into the truth.

Speaker 2: 13:28

What I want to get out of them, and what I'm trying to see them to see, is that it's not the job of their wife to love them. Most people have this idea that once they sign that contract that it's a contract they sign, they sign that contract. It's a contract they sign, even though it's a marriage paper. They feel that now somehow that person is hired to solve the problems that they don't even know they have. So they're supposed to love me, they're supposed to do all these things for me, they're supposed to make me feel good. And as you come through on it, you'll see that they don't even realize how they're hurting their wives and also they don't realize that it goes back to a wound.

Speaker 2: 14:09

Because the next question I would ask them is how was the relationship with your parents? And I'll say, first, I'll ask them how was the relationship with your father? And they'll say they could say it was okay, or they can say it was great, and same thing with the mother. They'll say it was, could say it was okay, or they can say it was great and they could same thing with the mother. They'll say it was okay or it was great. I'm looking for the one that they said they had more issues with. So if they say, how was the relation of your father? He was really good, he worked, but never really gave me time.

Speaker 2: 14:37

Okay, how did that make you feel? It didn't make me feel good, okay. So what does it mean not to feel good? It feels it doesn't, uh it. It makes me feel sad, okay. So what's sad mean to you? And we go seven layers deep on the on, the on, the why's why. You don't have to ask why over and over, but as you break it down you'll see that man come down to because I, it made me feel that I wasn't loved. They won't always come to the unworthiness part, but they, but they. Sometimes they do. I didn't feel. If you get it right, if you get them, sometimes they'll say I didn't feel worthy of his love, I didn't feel worthy of his time. And then if said if you didn't feel worthy of his time, what's, what did that make you feel? Beyond that, you can go deeper, and you'll always hear them say I, I felt unloved.

Speaker 1: 15:29

Hmm, so this, a lot of this, sounds like therapy in a way. How, how is this different from going to like a therapist?

Speaker 2: 15:37

So therapist from my own experience I've been to a lot of therapists and therapists talk about your problems and you talk about your problems forever and they give you some, maybe some, techniques you can do to deal with the pain. There's something that we do that we call consciousness exercises. So as we go through this and we understand where you are, the 12 stages of consciousness we work with, and there's different techniques of breathing and movements with your body that you can get with these energies. There's bound energy in all of our bodies and this energy is bound there because we put it there to not have to face or feel it. And we feel and we've been taught our whole lives that vulnerability is weak.

Speaker 2: 16:23

As men, we've been taught that vulnerability is a weak place. The truth is it's one of the hardest things to do is to be vulnerable. The safety, to be vulnerable themselves, because so many of us are wearing masks in this world, thinking that we're doing what we need to do to be worthy and to be lovable. So we play the role wherever we are in the world and we think that we put different masks on when we're at home. We put different masks on when we're at work or when we're with friends, we have different masks, but there's never this congruent authenticity in the world yeah, are you?

Speaker 1: 17:10

are you familiar with lewis house? No, okay, because, um, because he wrote a book and I remember reading it. It was called the mask of masculinity and he goes into how it's, um, how, like being vulnerable and showing emotion and such can be viewed as almost as if like a weakness for men. Um, so that might be a great book for you to check out. I'll have to send it to you, uh, or maybe next time I see you I can mess it along. Yeah, that was a great book and, uh, sounds like a lot of things that you're talking about here.

Speaker 1: 17:42

Um, I know, for me personally, I'm, when I'm talking with a lot of coaches and a lot of other clients and and interacting with a lot of people some days I'm talking to like upwards of 50 plus more or so people per day, hearing about what's going on with their lives and such that sometimes that takes a lot from me, because I'm trying to listen and show up and be so present with everybody. In a situation like yourself, where you're dealing with a lot heavier issues, how do you, how do you stay strong and how do you continue to show up for yourself and other things? How do you do that?

Speaker 2: 18:19

And that is awesome that you asked that. I condition myself every day with these consciousness exercises. I'm talking about and this is what we use with the men, this is what I use with my clients as well, and I'm also in school right now, working on my master's degree in something called source code alchemy. Um, the work, the work that I do through men on fire, where I learned it from, and being able to be certified through their coaching program um, it was created by a man named donnie Epstein and then one of his students had went as a practitioner with one of his students, separated from the company and started his own company called New Human University, and he teaches a similar technique that allows people to release this bound energy that is in their body and it affects your spinal cord, and when you understand what that does is your spinal cord will go into deficiencies or like like.

Speaker 2: 19:21

If you go to a chiropractor, they tell you your neck's out of place, things like this. When chiropractors are doing work on you, what they're doing is they're cracking it back into place, of forcing it back into place. The thing is is that your body has an organic, organic, natural energy in it that can rely on realign itself. But once that bound energy is released and it's allowed to be expressed in however it wants to be expressed, and through this work that you, that you can do, I can do as as a practitioner, or other practitioners around the world are called nsa practitioners. They are licensed chiropractors but they don't crack your back. They do this work.

Speaker 1: 20:00

They're all over the world what does it say stand for?

Speaker 2: 20:04

uh, uh, uh.

Speaker 1: 20:07

Now you're getting me on this one yeah, come back to it if you want to think about it in the back yeah, I got.

Speaker 2: 20:13

I got a brain fog there just on that one.

Speaker 1: 20:15

Um, uh, I'll get it though no worries, what are some of the other exercises?

Speaker 2: 20:22

because you said you you do like 12 of them every day so I don't do all 12, I'll do which ones are around me. So in the 12 stages of consciousness you have the wound, which is where most people are. They're wounded, wounded, wounded, children. Then you have can that be?

Speaker 1: 20:35

considered like just a trauma or is it like also like because like physical wounds, like like a cut and things like that too, does that carry over? Are you talking more emotional?

Speaker 2: 20:46

wound, emotional wounds or like past traumas, okay, okay, yeah. So emotional wounds, past traumas, that's that's. That's ce1, stage one. Then you have ce2, which is polarity. That's when you take things and you and you put it back on the world. You don't want to take responsibility for it, so you shame and blame everybody else. And why you? Why your life is not doing well. And then you have stuck where most people you're here I'm saying I feel so stuck and you have stuck. That's that's ce3. Then you have, then you have stuck where most people you hear them say I feel so stuck and you have stuck. That's that's ce3. Then you have. Then you start to get to the higher ones. Ce4 is enough enough. I, I, I'm aware of what's going on in my life and enough of it. So you get to decide of taking your power back, because now you have the awareness of what's going on and now you can take your power back.

Speaker 2: 21:30

Then you have ce5 the illusions that we create for ourselves through the stories that we live. We have these lives and we live these stories and we see them as solid. So we can't hold more than one perspective, because we see the solid idea of life, because these things happen to me. There's no way you're going to tell me that it's any different from that. I suffered these things or I lived this life. So how are you going to tell me differently? And we create illusions around this because those stories that we create, they take our power away from us. They don't allow us to see multiple perspectives, they allow us only to see one. And when you can begin to see multiple perspectives, you can start to have real, true power. Because now what happens is if there was a room of 100 people and you had a problem and you asked them all for an answer, everybody would give you an answer. And the higher truth is is that everybody would be correct. But if you're coming from a lower brain energy, you're going to take the one that meets you from where you're at and you're going to take that as solid truth. And you're going to see everybody else is out of their mind. So you go through CE5 and you learn how to get through the illusions and see through the filters that we created in our lives.

Speaker 2: 22:38

When you get to CE6, it's about being ready. I'm ready to take all this on. So you contain your energy. You don't leak it out through porn or drinking, or overworking or relationships. There's so many ways that we can leak our energy and we find these vices in our lives to not have to face and feel the things that we don't ultimately want to feel. So CE6 is about containing that energy and using it for the higher good.

Speaker 2: 23:07

And then CE7 is to take the past wisdom of yourself and your heritage and the future and you get to bring it into the now. And CE8 is about being in the nothingness. How many times are we in our head and we feel like we're spinning and just everything is all over us. We're in our thoughts, we're in our head, and when you're in your head you're dead because you're just, you're trying to figure it all out. I don't know why my head's spinning before you know you're lashing out at the world or your relationships, your significant other, your mother, your brother, your friends. So you get to get with CE8 and you get to be in the place of nothingness where your thoughts are just. You can't even hold a thought.

Speaker 2: 23:51

Then you have CE9, where you get to take back your light, but that light of the higher, the higher source, the light from source, from universe, from God, whatever you call it.

Speaker 2: 23:59

And then CE10 is about climbing the mountain and hearing that whisper. You can sometimes hear a whisper from a relative that's gone, or sometimes it's just embodying that energy of climbing that mountain, finding that inner wisdom or that soul purpose. And then you have CE11, the giving and the receiving of gifts, the healer, the higher purpose. And then you have CE12, it's community being able to know that you're connected to everything and everything is connected to you, that there's part of you that was never born and can never die we call it the godhead and it's knowing that you're never alone. We're interconnected with everything. Before the big bang, everything was entangled and we're, and that entanglement still exists. So when you, you, when you're in certain areas in your life, you can utilize these, knowing what's coming for you or what energy, having the awareness of what energy is around you. And you do these to ease for myself. I condition myself every morning with what I'm feeling in that morning, because I don't allow my day to condition me. I condition myself for my day so what do you?

Speaker 1: 25:08

because I've heard a couple of these different um levels of consciousness, I guess, from other areas and different shows and stuff like that, and so some of it sounds pretty familiar to me, but also I know a lot of this sounds like a lot of like woo-woo type stuff to a lot of other people.

Speaker 2: 25:40

What do you say to individuals like that who maybe are a little bit struggling to kind of grasp the same concept or maybe not believe in as much of like the interconnectedness and things like that. I mean you have to be called to this kind of work. It's just like if you were to do plant medicine. It's not something you just go do for, like I'm going to go do it for a weekend. It's something you're called to. But the one thing I always tell, or I suggest, is leave judgment at the door and adopt curiosity, because in curiosity you can learn and you can grow. But when you become a judger, judgment that's it. You've taken a solid perspective on life and growth is done yeah, it's tough.

Speaker 1: 26:18

Um, that just speaks to like growth minds versus like the scarcity mindset and abundance mindset, things like that. I remember one time working for an individual who just assumed he had everything figured out and never was open to any information, said he said he was good, solid with what he's been doing and, to be honest, his business hasn't been really moving too much. He's kind of the same situation he's got high turnover with a lot of his employees and clients and products and things like that. And it's a scary place to be in, right, when you're in that scarcity mindset you can't really get to it because you try, you try something new, you fail. You may see a little bit of success but you never really gain any traction on that no, not at all, and that's the thing is that when we have so many results in.

Speaker 2: 27:14

Just in man on fire alone, we've helped almost 30,000 men in the world. It's a worldwide platform and you do get people when they first come in the world. It's a worldwide platform and you do get people when they first come in. When men first come in, they just you know they come in. They have a certain judgment in the beginning, but as they do the work and they see the results, it's amazing to watch a man come in completely distraught and to go out after an immersion after four days and just, his whole life is changed. He sees the world with new eyes when he, when they do this work, I mean I remember being at my first immersion. I'm actually at immersion right now.

Speaker 2: 27:48

Um, we're, we're setting up and getting ready to run this immersion, uh, for the weekend. What is an immersion? Uh, it's it's like it's a four day event. It's like it's a four-day event. Uh, the men, they stay here. Uh, we, we either rent hotels or we rent, uh like um event centers and we, we do a various different amount of exercises and uh and um, I hate to call it energy work, but if that's the only way that other people can understand it, I could I would say energy work, which is the nsa work, uh, the ces, and coaching being able, it's, it's a, it's a. It's a mixed amount of different things that we do within in the week and and we do a lot of things that are very tribal bringing the energy out, because this is a man event, it's not the uh, these the men, these events are just for men.

Speaker 2: 28:40

The thing is that men come here with marital problems, so they have a place of desperation and they're willing to try new things. It opens them up to. The curiosity and this is where I say is that there's gifts and opportunities in front of us all the time when we're in those places that are really hard, when those places in our lives where we're like why me, why is this always happening? Whether it's a breakup, a divorce, whether it's something even more serious than that, whatever's going on in our life, we're losing a business, whatever it is that's going on, whatever chaos is going on in our lives, there's a gift and an opportunity in front of us.

Speaker 2: 29:20

In that moment, most of us fall into the trap of I'm going to lose everything, I'm not enough. I'm not worthy, I'm so unlovable. And if they continue to prove that to themselves, eventually it can come down to them why I'm on this world. There's no reason to be here, because I'm completely unworthy, I'm completely unlovable and I need to have all these things. I need to have the money, I need to have the cars, I need to have the houses. I need to have all these things to be worthy. And that is such a falsity, because I've seen so many men that have millions and some billions of dollars and they've and they've tried to take their lives before, multiple times.

Speaker 1: 29:58

Yeah. I mean you always hear about it with um, like business and stuff, people making more money than god and having everything, all the power, uh, but then just being totally unfulfilled and not having that bigger purpose, or or connection really to anybody else and all they do is just work and live, work and live um so that's and ahead.

Speaker 2: 30:20

Sorry to interrupt, that's a good. Key point is that they work to live because ultimately, they think that making that money is going to allow them to have worthiness of love.

Speaker 1: 30:32

Yeah, yeah, that's so true. And so how long have you been in through this whole process here? Because now you're at a different level where you're helping out and you're coaching and things. Um, so how long ago did you start and what's the typical time period for someone to go through these C's and such?

Speaker 2: 30:52

Okay, yeah, so we bring men through one year. We bring men through one year um processes. We invite them to come into a one year journey with us, with myself. For my business, it's a three month, six month and one year process, depending on how far people want to go, because you need a time of commitment. If you're not willing to surrender to a process, it's really hard.

Speaker 2: 31:18

Most people are coming searching for a magic pill and they think they're going to get it all done in one night. They're going to just give me the pill I want my life to be fixed in one hour. And it just isn't that. I mean, with this instant gratification that we're suffering these days, even with attention spans where it's down to like eight seconds. Now it's, it's just. It's so important for us to reconnect with our nature of who we really are and nature itself and just slow down and just take a moment to pause. We're in such a rush to be able to get all these things done and if we just pause and take a breath, we can actually get more done. If we just pause and take a breath, we can actually get more done. And it's, it's just that constant rat race to know that we're enough and we're worthy of love.

Speaker 1: 32:08

Yeah, I love. I love the whole slowing it down and just bringing awareness to it. Um, cause it can be frustrating, especially in entrepreneurship, when things aren't going the way that you believe it should be going or you're expecting it to be going, and that's like a lot of other things too, starting out originally in fitness and nutrition, and such clients are always struggling to kind of lose that weight. But having to buy into that bigger picture of this isn't going to be a life change.

Speaker 1: 32:36

So it's going to take some time. It's going to be a process. You said you've worked with your coach for a long time. I've been working with numerous amount of coaches for three, five years even and, um, things are just rolling now and it just continues to get better and better each year and I think it's just goes to show that, like you got to have that vision, you got to be able to see forward and see where you want to go with everything, um, and that I guess that was a long way of me just kind of winding up and asking you where are your? What are some of your goals? To kind of shift focus a little bit more towards the entrepreneur world, where are you trying to get with your own business and your own coaching? Are you trying to get to a stage where you have your own events and such, or is it going to be something different?

Speaker 2: 33:20

Yeah, well, I, you know there's some of it. It's like when, when you're in the process of this, it's like I don't know what it's all going to look like in the end. I have some somewhat of a an idea of what it will look like, but I do want to have my own events. All have our mission statements, as we know, and, uh, I, I love what I've I am involved in because, like with man on fire, their mission statement is to awaken them all, the men, the masculine in the world, the healthy masculine, what that is, to be able to have the emergence of the feminine and masculine, but truly a healthy masculine world, because there's so many men out there living in their feminine and they don't even know it. And for the school that I'm in, their mission is to awaken the world and the importance of it, and and the world is just a reflection of unhealthy people. And my mission is to be part of that, to be able to be part of that uh bucket and and pouring into the, into the energy of awakening the world and allowing people to take the blindfolds off and understand that there's a small sum of people out there controlling the world and there's a massive amount of people that are just following, and if we know anything about what a true leader is is they lead us to food, water and shelter. But if you look at what's happening in this world today, nobody's being led to any of that. They're being led to demise.

Speaker 2: 34:48

And for myself, if somebody can just love themselves, the ripple effect, the compounding effect of that is so immense you have no idea. It doesn't just end at that one person. It ripples through the generations and their families and their families' families, because their kids have friends, their wives have friends. And just doing the work not forcing people to change, but you just becoming the change. You talk different, you walk different, you act different. That means everybody has to communicate with you differently and they become curious. What is he doing differently? And at the end of the day, all he's doing is loving himself, being the best version of himself that he can possibly be, and in the process of that he affects so many people. And if he was to hurt somebody else, it would be as if he was hurting himself. Just imagine what the world would be like if everybody thought about themselves that way.

Speaker 1: 35:43

Yeah, no, it'd totally be a powerful place and like, yeah, you're so true with what you're saying there. Some of my best testimonials have come from parents and relationships of my clients, not even necessarily directly from my clients people coming to you thanking you for the change that you've created with these individuals, and I imagine you get a lot of that praise as well, because, like you said, it's that ripple effect that it's expanding out and grows and more, and it's like contagious almost, um, and then it helps, helps a lot, a lot of different ways too. Um, but I want to ask you too so you want to get to the point where, uh, you're hosting live events and such um, building the client book up and stuff like that what is, what's something that you're currently working on now that's going to help help you and your business in the future?

Speaker 2: 36:36

well I'm. I'm finishing up my uh degree in Source Code Alchemy. I'll be done by next year. So I'll be out in the world as a practitioner, being able to help people. As of right now, I'm already a coach and the practitioner work and I'm going to start to make my events. I want to begin to work with men and women and just being able to really break that boundary of conversation so between the two, men and women, they can understand really where they're coming from, and not just relationships, just individuals alone. Just being able to have people, allow them to know that they're having these inner conversations, thinking that people are supposed to know what they're thinking when they truly don't. So I'm working on that, just being able to be able to create my events.

Speaker 2: 37:40

And I'm also, as you know, working on public speaking, because I know that that's a big part for me and being able to deliver my message in a really powerful way. I brought that in as well, doing public speaking for a while, but now being able to work with Brandon as well is really cool. Nice, a combination of all four things that I I'm combining, but I just saw it coming together. Part of me didn't know how it was going to work, but I just saw the power of all of them, and so I am just out there in the world. I'm I. I'm always having conversations with people. When I hear people talking, I I'm just like man. They can use me, and there's so many people out there that are in places of desperation or pain, and it's the biggest thing you can ever invest in is yourself, and I know that there's so many people out there willing to do so.

Speaker 1: 38:33

So true. So where do you guys go if they are looking to connect with you, Ask a little bit more about what you've got going on, or even just follow you Social media? Should they reach out through an email, or what would be the best way for them to get in contact?

Speaker 2: 38:50

Yeah, the best way to get in contact with me is actually my phone number. I'm just like a hands-on kind of guy. I love direct conversations for me personally, and my phone number is 203-898-0976. The other thing that they can get ahold of me is my Instagram. That is life underscore blueprint and that's lifestyle blueprint Joseph Polici.

Speaker 1: 39:19

Got it. Yeah, we'll tag you and share you on um, on everything, so everybody can find you, can add you up too. And yeah, man, I'm excited, glad to hear that you're here at this. Uh, this event you got going on this weekend shows that you're dedicated, um, always busy, doing a lot of different things, got a big family, so're making the time whenever you can getting into your schedule to continue to work on yourself, work on everybody else around you and showing up and having great conversations with so many people. So I thank you so much for hopping on today. But before I let you go, I've got to ask you what would be your number one piece of advice for someone to survive the side hustle would be your number one piece of advice for someone to survive the side hustle.

Speaker 2: 40:07

The biggest piece of advice I would love to give somebody to survive the side hustle is to take that moment to put your hands on your heart, palm over palm, and just take a breath and know that, if you, it's the small steps that create the big picture. Just take that breath for yourself. Slow down there's no need to get it all done at once and just be able to take that breath and just be able to be present in the moment. Just be present with yourself. The more present you're with yourself, the more present you'll be with others.

Speaker 1: 40:39

You can only give what you are. Wow, powerful stuff, man. Deep episode you touched on a lot of things here and again, man, I appreciate it so much. I'm looking forward to hearing more once you get some of these events lined up in the future, and we'd love to have you back on so we can talk about some of those successful events. Again, dude, thank you so much and we'll talk soon. Thank you, peace guys.